Annnnnnd.. The ‘normal’ work year has officially started.
HAPPY MONDAY, Y’ALL
I feel like there is no other as important Monday of the year to say ‘Happy Monday’ to people
This is it, this is our day.
This is THE Happy Monday, Day
This is fucking New Year’s all over again baby
I’ve had the last week ‘off’, but have spent the last 4 days getting myself back into the swing of things
Big year ahead, gotta get cracking along ya know blah blah
Really, I just needed this time to get my head into gear & to get my shit together.
Lock down some goals, write a month by month plan for them, and start attacking them with relentless consistency, you know the drill.
2020, Baby – lets go.
It’s not just about the goals you’ve set
(I fkn hope you have – if you haven’t, get onto it!! Seriously, just bloody do it. You know it’s good for you and your future and shit)
It’s about the systems you put in place to support your progression toward your goals.
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.
Your goal is your desired outcome. Your system is the collection of daily habits that will get you there.
“This year, spend less time focusing on outcomes and more time focusing on the habits that precede the results.”- James Clear
Bloody pretty good advice to start you off in 2020.
I caught up with an old school friend while I was home over the break.
Great guy (honestly one of the most considerate people I know), my first gym buddy actually.
(So, obviously a fantastic guy)
As good as it was to catch up with him, I found myself surprised & a little saddened to hear him speak his beliefs about habits, planning & the ability to change.
It wasn’t that he directly said,
‘My name is Tim & I don’t people can ever change DERP’
It wasn’t directly there – but it was there in his language & self-talk.
As a Coach, it is vital that you hear through the words that you clients are saying.
There were multiple times where he said things like,
“I’m just prone to procrastination”
“I got the job, but I think it’s because the management are biased against the other guy”
“I mean, that’s me I guess. I just fell out of going to gym”
“Wow, Michael, you sure have drunk a lot of beers today”
(He may or may not have said the last one, IDK I can’t remember 🙂 )
I was legitatmently taken aback by this kind of talk.
As we caught up over the course of the day/night/morning, I only got the impression more and more that my friend thought 1 of 2 things;
- People are who they are, not capable of changing their characteristics & due to this, their future is predetermined.
- Change or self-development/improvement is a skill set that is beyond his limits.
After coming to the next day & re-interpreting the events of the day/night/morning, I was left feeling disappointed for my friend.
I hope this doesn’t get interpreted with a single ounce of condescension – it isn’t meant with any whatsoever.
I just felt sad that my friend had either never been taught/ never bothered to learn how to change your mind set from fixed to growth.
(I feel sad for him, but I also know that self-development is a journey of taking responsibility & you need to pursue it, it doesn’t just come to you. You will need to take up the journey. Empathy, not sympathy.)
It seemed like he had never learnt that you can change the way you think.
Never learnt that you can change the way you behave.
Never learnt that you can change your habits.
Well, I don’t know what to tell ya.
Other than – you can.
(Don’t be feeding me any of this ‘I can’t because.’ bullshit over here mate, you can. You are powerful beyond measure. Not bloody having it in 2020)
I have two ripper quotes to throw at you & old Timmy boy,
“People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”
Bingo Bango, that’s what’s up.
“Your identity can hold you back:
- I’m terrible with directions.
- I have a sweet tooth.
- I’m bad at math.
…or build you up:
- I’m the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts.
- I finish what I start.
- I read every day.
Build habits that reinforce your desired identity.”
Self-Talk is important!!
Whenever you tell yourself that you are or are not a certain type of person, you are only re-enforcing this belief about yourself.
You are literally telling yourself what you can or can’t do.
Who you can or can’t be.
The way you will or won’t behave, act or react.
So, would you rather talk yourself into becoming the person you want to be, or beat yourself into staying the same/becoming a person you don’t even admire?
Yes, we can all be awesome.
It starts with talking to yourself.
Start questioning the way you talk to yourself.
Is it positive, or negative?
Is it upbeat, or party-pooper?
Is it encouraging to my progress?
Is it helping me with my habits, or detrimental?
Is it the way I would talk to my best friend?
If you wouldn’t call your best friend a raging dickhead because of a very normal mistake, don’t call yourself that.
It matters more than most people think.
Statements like, “I’m just prone to procrastination” are
more damaging to one’s own progress than most realise.
EVERYONE IS FKN PRONE TO PROCRASTINATION MATE
Some people decide to change the way they behave, so they can be the people they want to be.
And so can you.
“I’m not an exercise type person” becomes “I haven’t done this much before, but I’ll keep trying”
“I’m prone to procrastination” becomes “I’m working hard to change my habits to become more productive”
“I guess I’m just stuck with this physique” becomes “I joined the LookGoodNakedCo online coaching program and learnt how to change my physique!”
You get the point.
Decide to change the way to speak to yourself, change the way you see yourself, change your trajectory.
Basically, don’t be caught into a vicious self-fulfilling prophecy like Tim. Be better than Tim.
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HAPPY 2020 BABY LETS GO.
See you soon